elegance is refusal~ coco chanel

Having to enlighten myself about the french women by

completing the read of " two lipsticks and a lover"(helena frith powell) has raised

the inquisitive need to live life in a different way. Raising my question to infidelity, passion and freedoom.

They say that the french have always remained composed in time with their elegance and poise. After which i do agree

that they do have a certain characteristic about them.

I have learned that beauty is never enough but women with

an air of intellect is hard to resist .( actually i always knew that)

another habit that i would like to raise is

the french are in love with lingerie

~~~> not just lacy racy numbers but actually getting

matching sets not for the pleasures of others but for yourself.

So, take the time to indulge and spend on intimates.

It was a funny question raised with my cousin, kyun.

How many pairs do we all actually need?

How many pairs have you collected yourself?

How many types do we need?

I can tell you that after this . That my love for lingerie for myself will come now. Take some time to strip off everything from your mind. Sit down and think about how un-attractive it is to have granny panties and a black bra? Now sifting through all that i have to make sure that i have pairs would be a task. brassiere should be the new fad.

Passion & infidelity we all should live by it. I think sometimes we put aside what needs to be fueled in us. Maybe with a bit of passion we might find our way into a better relationship and a way of life. I mean in the right quantities, we should not turn passion into greed or obsession.

thats just scary! The French always are in need of a lover as i have taken off from the book. Hence the notion of romance and paris being the city of love. But i made a strange discovery that

a little infidelity does not bother the french at all. Imagine given the context of malaysia, you will be condemned to hell for juggling extra boys on your side. But love is an excuse, there is no harm falling in love or being loved over and over again. Isnt that beautiful, its almost lyrical? Since when has it been a prosecution to love. Ah wait, there are star crossed lovers like romeo and juliet. The likes of families denying them their love. i like being in love , its very clumsy and silly. sparks of a different person in you.

What is scary is when love turns into a chore. Rather than swearing yourself to undying depths of continuous affections. Instead you loathe the person you're with. Just being and staying for sake of the hole that you have dug yourself because of commitments .

But in the end of it all, i found that despite the very temptation of chase . It might just be satisfying that infidelity could just be in the mind ,rather than the act of it.

freedoom off being over weight, it seems as though the number one current obsession on every womens mind is how do we look? I dont know if currently i am obsessed about it? But i do know i would like to see myself in a toned fit body. Its not the crazy magazines that drive me but just a general healthy being. I like waking up knowing that i can be on the go go! for the day. The french eat for pleasure but never over indulging. Despite the numerous packs of cigarettes, glasses of wine & cheese. They just remain thin. Its always about portions and a balance meal of fruits and vegetables. These are all plain common sense, dont you aggree? Im glad that i have more love for greens and fruits.But i think it also depends on how the culture eats? Its hard to deny any good malaysian food especially since i am away most of the time but i have to admit living in melbourne. Has really raised my independence, thus cooking and developing my love for fresh markets. Thats the one thing i want to do when i am in europe. I just love buying fresh produce and cooking.I doubt i would have been like this if i stayed back and studied in malaysia.

So, ladies....slap on more creams and hype up on your beauty regime because getting more sleep is another key secret too looking better.bovarysme~~~